Hello again GRL, I have only just caught up with this thread. I hope you are OK. I agree with what MaryG said here
I would definitely read all available material and then seek out a sympathetic specialist.
and just thought that if this is what you decide to do, Dr Tina Peers (who I mentioned in my earlier post) might be a very good choice. She runs a menopause clinic & has been open about her use of HRT after breast cancer & that depression was a factor in her decision to go back on HRT, as you'll know if you've had a chance to listen to her podcasts. I have not seen her myself though did consider it some time ago. The online clinic details say she does remote consultations if she's not located close to you.
Wx