Is it an ultrasound across your tummy or a penis shaped probe that goes inside?
"Penis-shaped probe"
. The mind boggles!
Seriously though, please try not to worry - though I complete understand your concerns re your previous bad experiences.
All the scans I've had whether transvaginal or U/S have been conducted in the most sympathetic way possible. Only one (woman) present and very gentle. I have experienced a little momentary discomfort from the TVS because the probe was moving around - to try to find my ovaries I think - which atrophy when post-menopause, but the discomfort only minimal. Once a man was supposed to do it but I declined and a woman did it instead.
I would suggest it is really important for them to do both if possible because the TVS I understand is more accurate. My womb lining measured thicker from the TVS than the U/S external.
In terms of the results - that completely depends on your area. Most of the scans I've had done have been carried out by sonographer in separate department and while I have always asked her informally what the measurement is and whether she can see anything abnormal, the sonographer has always said the scan will be sent to the requesting gynae for comment and report.
So it really depends on your area. The last time when I had a scan, and referral for hysteroscopy, that was in one specialised clinic, and I had the scan and then discussed the results that same day with the gynae. When I had the hyseroscopy and biopsy. Immediately after this I sat down in the same room with the consultant and she discussed it with me and made recommendatios re my ongoing hRT treatment.
All the best with your scan(s)!
Hurdity x