CNN's Don Lemmon's recent moronic comments about women "in their prime" (i.e. childbearing years) are definitely a symptom of a greater problem.
I am 59, single, eight years out from menopause, no HRT (not often prescribed in the US now because of cancer risk controversy), and recently rejected by an old flame who wasn't that subtle about wanting someone younger.
Of course this ex is as moronic as the Don Lemmons of this world. But it still stings.
I do have some physical issues post-menopause: moderate vaginal dryness and urinary leakage, which is humiliating. But, I have no sex life, so the former doesn't matter. I wear pads for the urinary issue-moderate leakage-and that seems to work.
But, back to the issue of self-esteem. I feel like my days of being attractive are behind me. I am already being treated for depression, so I think what I'm grappling with is outrage at the societal issue. In the US-and in other countries, I'm sure-there is so much pressure on women to look younger.
Menopause is a major life change that goes with aging, and, as women, we have to face sexism directed at women growing older. It doesn't seem fair that men can be "silver foxes" and prop themselves up with Viagra while women are just perceived as too old to be sexually attractive. Where's our Viagra, btw?
Not everyone can be Helen Mirren or Jane Fonda (great genes plus discreet plastic surgery).
I want to be able to accept myself as I age, but it's so hard. Please share your views and experiences.
