I don't think I have a sex drive any more. I've been married for 32 years. For a while, I really had an issue down there, cat flaps were like sandpaper, lots of burning and itching inside, constantly felt as if I was tissue thin and would tear to shreds any moment. Really horrible. It all felt like such a trial, plus I was putting on weight and tired all the damn time.
I did try HRT for 9 months but developed very high blood pressure, palps, etc., so stopped. The strange thing is that while the HRT seemed to 'fix' the extreme dryness (50 patches, I already had a Mirena), they did nothing for my libido, but the dryness and other symptoms never came back after I stopped - more than 3 years ago now.
It does bother me that I have no libido, and hubs is still a very sexual person. I'm afraid I don't have any answers. I've had to learn not to push him away if he moves in for some affection, like a proper kiss in the kitchen or something, nothing major, he's not pushing himself on me. I'd got to the stage where I didn't even want him near me in case it went anywhere, and then I'd begun to resent him. We eventually talked about it and all he wanted was to be touched. We do ok now with massages (getting a proper massage table was great), sweat lodges (just the two of us), skinny dipping and such. It's like we had to find each others older bodies. Once we'd done that, sex came sort of naturally but differently. I don't get that buzz any more, but I don't know what else to do.