Aww Baby you are not on your own there. I've been on gel/utrogestan for 12 months, didn't help anything other than hot flushes and seemed to have made reflux worse over the months, unless that is coincidence(?).... Drs will not check hormone levels at my age (64), they say there is no point!
I stopped HRT altogether a few weeks ago whilst having tests on my hoarse vocal chords and scans on my thyroid.
My hot flushes have returned but mainly only get them after sleeping, when I get up in a morning or whenever I go for my first wee!! They are bearable so far.
I don't seem to feel any different on or off HRT, so I'm guessing it maybe doesn't always suit everyone?
I am going to ask to try "last chance saloon" lol of Femseven conti when they are back in production, so that I can be completely transdermal and see how I am with that. My meno clinic chappie suggested that 12 months ago but they were out of stock of course. But I live in hope they will be available soon.
I don't know what the answer is, I'm also worn out, got aching muscles and joints, weepy, joie de vivre has run away etc etc etc. Am going to try magnesium and vit B supplements along with my vit D to see if they help.
Its not flippin easy this menopause lark, we can only hope things improve with time. Be kind to yourself, try some deep breathing if it helps, watch some daft programmes on TV to make you laugh and eat/drink whatever you like and stay safe xxxx