I fully understand you Baby, as I have problems with my mum too.
I’ve stopped talking about menopause and my bleeding bottom.
She actually told me it’s my fault she has now got high blood pressure problems, because I upset her with my health problems.
And I tried talking about how I was molested as a child, both my parents just start talking about something else like they don’t her me.
Both my parents talk only about negative things and everything always bad, like how they went bankrupt. She seems to find joy in others bad luck.
They treat my husband like crap, even though he bought the townhouse they are now living in. Nothing ever good enough, and they do work to the townhouse like paint the walls baby shit brown, without asking us.
A couple of years ago I got into a huge argument with them at the shops because they wouldn’t let me get the house pest control. They said the guy that did it was a dickhead and he didn’t know what he was doing. He been spraying my house for 15 years now and I think of him as a friend. Then the other week talking about my daughter and how she got her unit sprayed, my Mum looked at me and said that they understand because they rent and have to spray the place themselves. I called her out on that.
In the next month I’m hoping to see a specialist about my bottom and I’m not telling my parents. Because with all my previous operations, they tell me they will help me. Well there idea of help is to sit while I try to walk around to bring them coffee and cake. Or they yell at me because the rent has gone up or my dad takes me for a walk, I asked him could he help me with a plant. The answer was no I have to take mum out for lunch. He jumped into his car and left me standing on the driveway. He didn’t even see me in the house.
I found since menopause I can’t deal with my parents. I feel very angry why I was molested as a child, where were they, piss drunk at the same party. I too saw a Chinese foot doctor and it all just came out. He said I needed to talk to them. It’s a bit hard when they don’t listen to you. So menopause has made my feeling all worse.
And the sad thing is I don’t think they realised that our relationship has change, they just do the usual and stick their heads in the sand.
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