Hi
I use the lot, Vagifem pessary three times per week (if you pop some YES on the outside of the applicator it is easier to insert). The first couple of times might be a bit awkward or uncomfy but try popping one leg bent on a chair or the loo seat and that makes it easier, you could use a mirror if necessary.
Ovestin is great for all the outside bits, I use a pea sized amount each night before bed and the tube lasts 3 months. It can chafe a little at first but this does wear off so do persevere.
I use YES VM each morning after showering, again a pea sized amount all over outside bits. This is really gentle. The tube lasts about 6 months.
I get all of this on prescription along with my patches.
Don't let the dr fob you off saying it's too much HRT! the vaginal stuff isn't, it's local oestrogen and its effect is only in the vagina (bladder and bowel I think too).
It can take a while to notice the effects depending on how your bits are but do persevere. Once you get into the routine it's fine.
You may want to read Hane Lewis' book Me and My Menopausal Vagina which is all about this subject.
Good luck x