Hi Pennyfarthing,
Yes it's much easier logistically having her there. They are feeding her several times a day and making sure she is well hydrated. She is taking it so that is keeping her going. I have poa for her but we never really talked much about such things. if I'm honest I didn't have a very close relationship at times. She was a cold fish but that was her way and I never felt unloved. it's odd now when she raises her hand to my face or squeezes my hand as she has never done that , at least not in my adult life. She has a house, a small terraced house overlooking the castle, I was born there. We have been renting it out but the tenants have just left so I've been going back and fore. I know when the time comes I will have to deal with it all, I have a sister but she's much younger and tends to leave such stuff to me. I'm trying to think ahead as we woild like to keep the house somehow, but it's been left to 5 as in me my sister and 3 grandchildren so she certainly hasn't made things easy for me. it's all head work. Thank you for your kindness xx
Clkd, I'm trying to self care as they call it but being in this situation is exhausting as you know. I went down tonight and she has curled into a foetal position, they can't straighten her . She slept the whole time I was there, they wake her periodically for drinks , turn her etc . We try and go down every day .
She pays for the home herself, it's not posh but I think the care is good xx