We can't choose families though and even friendships can be full of difficulties.
One womans' bungee jump is anothers' surviving Christmas.
. I will try to remember this during December
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Our history: whether it is within the family or in the wider World : makes our future. Also I have to remind myself that my parents had problems B4 I arrived. This was confirmed by a very loved family friend, we had a chat about 5 years ago so I can let go of more of my past. She confirmed what I thought I already knew. PHEW!
squeaker - you took control. You didn't run and hide, you told yourself not to repeat her habits. Even if you didn't realise that she was toxic towards you, by seeing history repeating itself you took charge
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- you can't alter her but you can avoid her. I do this with my sister ;-). Parents have their habits formed by the previous generations.