Yeah Roseneath,
I totally agree, that having more time to think and digress can make the anxiety's worse, defo.
I've often thought, what the hell have you ever done with your life, why didn't you do this or that,
become this, or that, took that opportunity when it came knocking, BUT, we forget that at that particular time, we were probably happy in our lives, otherwise disposed with nappies, kids, grandparents knocking every day, hubbys working and never seemingly at home with us, money,
everyday living, oh the list goes on, and on...
What's important is that we were happy, (well, most of the time anyway) was contented , and felt needed. I think feeling needed is a critical thing, we are needed with our children, then they grow up and leave, and that leaves us gutted, at a loss, then meno hits and it's tits up from there, but what we've got to remember is that it's our lives, why look back and have regrets, what's done is done,
there's NO going back, we've just got to make sure our future is how we want it to go, stop looking back, it's no use, only drags you down, if you've got regrets, make things better now, take that leap,and tell your OHs your secrets, you know him, will he be able to take it, only you will know that,
If not keep them to yourself, BUT don't beat yourself up over it, keep them forever, or share them,
it's your call...
I might add, if your secrets are bad, like disrupting your life, then you really should talk and tell ‘someone' . If not your OHs, then someone else, trouble is with that kind of secret they can eat you alive, so talking will release them, make you feel better. Then you can start to move on. Good luck..
My god, I can really go on sometimes can't I..? Sorry.....lol........xx
