Hi Dahliagirl,
My hair has always been a dry, frizzy mess
I'd just got used to handling it when meno kicked in and the texture has changed yet again - on the hair that's left, that is.
Have you tried treatments on your hair? I find using oil - anything from olive to coconut to avocado, as well as commercial oils available. They'll need a good wash out, though. Even dry, frizzy hair can get oil overload.
Another favourite treat for me is my once every 10 days protein mask (I use this when I'm going out or just want my hair to look and feel at its best). My two favourites are TiGi Dumb Blonde Reconstructor (I'm a bottle brunette), and the one from Lee Stafford (name escapes me now as he has a few, but you can tell the LS is a protein mask as it asks you to use a moisturising conditioner after rinsing it out - which you should always do after a protein mask).
If you do try these and have good results, don't be tempted to over-use as they can cause your hair to become brittle.
So, not really a menopause matter as such, though I think a lot of women have hair issues at our age, but I just wanted to pass on something I've found helped me.
Hope you have a better hair day tomorrow.