I will say I've been a member of a few meno groups/forums, and there are inevitably some heated exchanges from time to time. It's seems virtually unavoidable.
The whole topic of menopause and hormones - to use or not to use, how serious/valid the risks are, what the 'best' way is to approach menopause - well, lets put it this way: it can be a powder keg for strong opinions and feelings.
If I see a thread anywhere that seems to be going 'off the rails', I just leave it and don't engage. My life has enough stress without coming to a support group, only to be caught up in, yet, more tension! I say use your own best judgment when it comes to heated threads.
That being said, isn't this where moderators should get involved as well? Before it gets so bad, people feel it's best to leave the forum altogether?