I have a technical job in a male dominated profession. I'm in a team of 12, with 2 other women, in their 20s. 4 months ago my boss (male, unapproachable, control freak) put me in a stressful position to do a job I wasn't trained for. Luckily nothing went wrong but 2 days later I began having awful night sweats followed by hot flushes. I stopped sleeping properly. I thought it was stress then realised it was the menopause brought on by the stress. I haven't had a period since either! I'm really angry with my boss for causing this, but obviously have to deal with him on a day to day basis. Since then I've been unable to do an effective days work. I'm winging it and it's only a matter of time before my lack of productivity is noticeable. I can't think straight, have brain fog, can't concentrate, tire easily, sometimes can't string a meaningful sentence together, they want me to train in the above task as well but I genuinely don't want to/can't learn anything new. The younger (vacuous) women have no idea and I'm loath to confide in them but have to work with them. I feel even the males I'm closest to would have no empathy. Recently I know that others in the team have arranged a night out to which I haven't been invited and as a result I feel even older and pushed out. I also feel removed from the daily crack. I'm struggling to go to work at a job I used to enjoy and a team I used to feel a part of. Turning 50 last year was fantastic, had the best time, didn't feel 50, now it's just the opposite. Is that how it's going to be from now on? I feel so useless, can't even confide in friends because this feels so stupid but its taking over my thoughts. I love this forum, anonymous but open and great advice….please??