Hi Sax19
Oh how awful - yet another example of a doctor trying to fob you off with ADs when you are not depressed!
Yes you are quite right that you need HRT at this young age to help protect your heart and bones, at least until the average age of menopause of around 51. Even without your early menopause, the NICE Guidelines state that ADs should not be offered as the first line of treatment for menopause but HRT should be. If she does not know that at your age HRT is needed then she should not be practising!!!
If you are not yet fully at menopause and if your ovaries are still functioning somewhat then you may well still get some mood swings due to your own cycle. Also as you say, some women are sensitive to the progestogen in HRT - although Femoston is one of the better tolerated ones.
If you still have flushes then the 1/10 is definitely too low an oestrogen dose so it sounds to me like you could benefit from a higher dose - 1/10 is not very high for a woman of your age! There is 2/10 available so perhaps you could ask your doc for that? The good news is that the progestogen dose is no greater on this preparation, but the extra oestrogen may mean you do not notice any side effects from the prog? Alternatively you could have a Mirena coil - and then choose a transdermal oestrogen (patch or gel) which you could tweak to suit you.
Please go to a different doctor - the ones who are wanting you to be on HRT - and discuss other options - a higher dose or different regime.
All the different types are listed under TREATMENT/HRT preparations above.
Hope this helps and please let us know how you get on
Hurdity x