Hi and welcome KittyBee
I did a long post to you earlier and then my internet went down - so frustrating.
It's so tough going through fertility treatment so you must be mentally and physically exhausted with all this. How exciting to know you will have a baby in spring - my sister has twin boys by surrogacy - she and her husband so enjoy their boys. To now have your hormones pack up is also very tough.
I started my meno in my mid 30s so know what this is like - I had luckily had my 2 children.
I am now 60 and have used HRT on and off for the last 25 years and have tried just about every HRT there is to try.
You GP should be able to prescribe HRT for you although if there is a menopause clinic locally that is worth exploring.
The problem with most GPs is that they are often not very clued up about HRT - so it's worth getting clued up yourself and go prepared with info to discuss with them.
As you have digestive issues I would like to suggest an HRT combination that worked for me very well in the early stages. You may well still be peri menopausal so hormone levels could be fluctuating, therefore a sequential HRT regime will be best and will involve a monthly bleed. Most GPs will offer HRT combined pills but transdermal HRT can be better for those that have digestive issues. The combined HRT patches are unfortunately medium dose and when I tried these the dose was too high. It is good to start low and then increase as and when needed.
Therefore my recommendation would be:
Oestrogen as patch or Oestrogel used continuously - maybe 37.7 patch or one pump of Oestrogel each day.
Add in progesterone for 10-12 days each month - this would be in pill form and I would suggest you try Provera first as this is a kinder progesterone that is well tolerated and should control the bleeds well. I know these are pills but when only taken for 10 days per month for so shouldn't be a problem. The alternative is Utrogestan but this can bring a sedative effect and there can be issues around absorption as well.
As life settles with the new baby and the joy it can bring - your digestive issues may settle anyway and HRT can help you feel better generally.
Here are the links on this site that give the info to print off and show your GP:
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/treatafter.phphttp://www.menopausematters.co.uk/to_progestogens.phpThere is comprehensive info on all HRT TREATMENTS in the link at the top of this page - it could be worth printing all these off so you can discuss your options more fully with the GP.
It is important you have HRT when young to protect you heart a bones for the long term. If you experience vaginal dryness then local oestrogen like Vagifem is also a good idea and this is often needed alongside systemic HRT.
Do find out about local mothers groups or NCT group - one of the joys of having a new baby is getting to know other mums who will often end up life long friends.
Do keep us posted DG x