Probably too late to be of any use.
I used to worry myself sick about eating 'out' as it made my emitophobia worse. As I grew up - that is, in recent years - I've said 'no' to eating if we go anywhere. It is rare that anyone seems to notice and my classic reply is 'I have problems with keeping sugars even so had to eat earlier' …….. if anyone asks if I am diabetic I say that I'm under investigation ;-).
Some people are unable to tolerate certain spices. Also MSG is well known for causing allergic reactions. Again I would say that I have such a sensitive system these days that I tend to stick with foods/drinks that I am safe with which means eating earlier. Which is true in my case, there are foods that I refuse to eat i.e. chicken: unless cooked at home.
For years I couldn't even watch others eating if I felt queasy
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……. I am not so bad these days.
I make sure that I sit by the door. That I know where the loo is and that I have the key to the car in case I need to leave for a while. I simply leave the table, I don't say anything. Most people think I'm going to the loo and it's not something that is particular discussed ;-).
As for your OH, he seems insenstivitive. This isn't the day to bring your issues to a head, but you need The Talk. Explain that right now you are not prepared to go out to eat, that you don't mind if he goes alone as men should have buddy time but he mustn't mind nor put you under pressure about going out with his mates: that if you do go along that he isn't to be worried if you don't eat ……
"It is what it is", that you find being in a crowded place difficult. It might not always be like this ……… certainly I have improved in recent years when I thought I would never leave the house again
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Being pedantic, you are 'right'.