Who told you that? Stigma again
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. Yep; if you are referred to a Psychiatrist then you *have* problems
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- that your GP can't deal with.
What's the difference between seeing a Gynecologist, ENT Surgeon or Psychiatrist? I know, there was a stigma but don't encourage those around you to continue the myth
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I rarely tell anyone what medication I'm taking, which Specialistes I've been referred to, certainly I would NEVER tell my family - nowt to do with them! Would you tell people when you use the toilet
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…… my GP and Himself are on the list of those who 'need to know'
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'letting others down' is in your mind
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- many years ago I was very ill one C.mas night and had to return to the Hotel. The next morning Mum told me crossly 'you spoiled the evening for the others then!' - "well nope, actually: if they aren't capable of having fun without my being around, that's there problem not mine. If they decided to let the evening be spoiled, that was there choice!"
I have NEVER told her any health problems again. It's obvious that she cares more about the feelings of others than my own. (long story short
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