Hi PollyH
My experience has been very similar to yours - the same amount of time too that I've had vile symptoms - had a relatively early meno at 44 too - tried all sorts and been on and off HRT a few times too - but always go back on, in spite of being ill when taking progesterone.
I feel 6 to 7 / out of 10 bad on HRT - but 10/10 bad when off it! With the occasional good day here and there.
As you are, I'm progesterone intolerant too. Panay's clinic suggested mirena - then hyster - after much deliberation, in the end I decided I didn't want either.
Hyster felt too much of a drastic step, the fact that it is irreversible scares me if there is no improvement - after researching I discovered that some women have felt worse emotionally, mood swings etc etc after a hyster - it can create other issues too, eg. worsening of bladder prolapse with loss of surrounding tissue, everything can collapse/lean back - then what to do ...
I'm on ultra low dose estrogen patch and Vagifem twice weekly - the clinic allow me to use HALF Estraderm 25. I am medication sensitive and in the past I've had endo build up quickly even on micro low dose, so I'm required to have 6 monthly scans.
When I take the vag route 100mg Utrogestan for 12 nights every 6 weeks it always makes me feel beyond hideous, I dread taking it - however I do have the 6 week 'estrogen holiday'. I feel bad for 12/14 days on Utro - if I didn't take the estrogen (Estraderm) patch, I would feel ghastly every single day and not be able to function.
Would you think about trying the long cycle option?
You have my sympathies, I hope you can find a way forward.
Night_Owl
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