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jgr

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Anxiety/ feeling weird
« on: February 17, 2013, 04:07:18 PM »

Found this, hope i am allowed to post it here as it all sounds familiar. This makes a lot of sense.

Hi everyone,
I mentioned i would pass on advice to people who struggle for answers and this is the question I get asked most so i thought I woud post something i once wrote on this harmless but irritating symptom.
D.P as I will refer to it, is a common and understandable offshoot of the anxiety condition. I can also tell you that it is in no way a mental illness. It is not serious or harmful in any way and has a totally logical explanation. It is temporary and, with patience and understanding, eventually passes like any other symptom.

The key to recovering from this feeling of detachment is to surrender to this strange feeling, to pay it no respect and realise it is just the product of an over-tired mind, fatigued by your constant worrying thoughts and the constant checking in to how you feel. This symptom relies on your fear of it to keep it alive.

When people are caught up in the worry cycle, they begin to think deeply and constantly. They study themselves from deep within, checking in and focusing on their symptoms. They may even wake in the morning only to continue this habit, “How do I feel this morning? “I wonder if I will be able to get through today”. What's this new sensation I feel?” This may go on all day, exhausting their already tired mind further. This constant checking in and constant assessing of their symptoms then becomes a habit, but like all other habits this one can also be changed.

All this worry is bound to make your mind feel dull and unresponsive. Is it any wonder you have come to feel so distanced from your surroundings? Is it any wonder you find it so hard to concentrate? Some people, when studying for exams for hours on end, get to the point where they can no longer take information in, so they take a break and carry on the day after. For you, there are no breaks and no time outs.

As I have already mentioned earlier, your body has a safety mechanism that protects it from all this worry and slows the mind down to safeguard itself. It takes a step back from this onslaught, which can then produce your feelings of detachment and the world around you may become hazy or out of focus.

Once you understand this symptom as being caused by an over-tired mind, exhausted through worry, that you are not going mad and these feelings can't harm you in any way, it makes sense. With the fear factor taken out of this symptom, it can start to hold less power over you and affect you less than it did before. Although still annoying, you now know why you feel these feelings. Once you learn to accept them and stop adding worrying thoughts to the mix, this is another symptom that you will be able to overcome in time. Taking a step back and giving up the worrying thoughts, gives your mind the chance to rest, rejuvenate and refresh.

When it happened to me, I recognised and understood what was causing it. I realised that I was checking in and worrying about it and I did fear this sensation, so I just stopped doing it. I also learnt to get busier and stop brooding on this and other symptoms. Being active gives you another focus. Having too much time on your hands can open the door to too much needless thinking. With less worry and fear of this harmless but upsetting symptom, I was eventually able to overcome it. It merely became a nuisance and because I knew the reason for its existence, it no longer held any power over me. When a worry or fear loses its importance, it loses its power and that is why it is essential to realise these symptoms are neither harmful nor serious. Gradually, without all the checking in and worrying, this symptom that so dominated my life began to diminish and eventually disappeared completely.

This symptom is like any other; all symptoms are still being fuelled by your fear of them. As long as the fear continues, so will the symptoms. When we start to understand why we feel like we do, we automatically fear them less and they start lose the their edge and importance, this is when symptoms gradually start to fade.



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Rowan

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Re: Anxiety/ feeling weird
« Reply #1 on: February 17, 2013, 04:16:48 PM »

This sounds like Charles Linden  "The Linden Method" he certainly helped me when I was going through anxiety and panic attacks, his "panic eliminator" CD got me through many a bad night when they were at their most frightening.
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Suzi Q

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Re: Anxiety/ feeling weird
« Reply #2 on: February 18, 2013, 03:17:53 AM »

Your cleverer than me Gungadin
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Trey

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« Reply #3 on: February 18, 2013, 02:03:28 PM »

Thanks jgr, I really was helped by that post today as I was going nuts over a costly error made by my financial person on taxes and I was obsessing.  Will now try to put it into perspective. 
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angelindskiexx

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« Reply #4 on: April 19, 2013, 09:57:07 AM »

jgr -

Thank you so much for your post!!  You don't know how much it has helped me today!  You have described how I think and feel. 

Yesterday I was doing so much better but today I have a lot of anxiety   :'( - I've even taken 0.75mg Ativan.  I am so tired of feeling scared.  I'm going to print this out and hang it on my wall. 

Thank you so much!
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Witches Cat

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« Reply #5 on: April 19, 2013, 12:56:15 PM »

jgr, along with Maureen Lipman's programme on the telly last night describing how the brain holds onto frightening thoughts and memories and puts them on a "loop" and keeps replaying them, your post has just helped to reinforce the fact that I'm my own worst enemy. You described exactly how I feel, and think recently, the constant monitoring myself, how I feel, how will I feel later, how does it compare to yesterday, am I getting worse..... and it starts before I even get out of bed. (I explained this to the doc)  Thinking back to the telly last night, I decided to try and think of something else when I catch myself self monitoring, and in just the short time (only a few hours) I'm already feeling the benefit. Your post was wonderful because it shows I'm not alone in this, but why oh why couldn't the doctor have explained it when I went asking for help, I regularly get like this and usually prozac helps me out, only this time he didn't want me to have them, although I'm in a constant state of panic. My physical symptoms which I was so scared of, were checked out at hospital and proved to be groundless, but the brain wouldn't accept it and the symptoms continued. I too am going to print your post to read when nec.  Thanks again. :)
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grumpy2008

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« Reply #6 on: April 19, 2013, 01:38:28 PM »

Thanks, jgr! My mind is a constant loop at the moment, and I'm trying hard to detach myself and just observe instead... I've done this before and it worked, but I had to keep trying. It's worth the effort though  :)
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CLKD

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« Reply #7 on: April 19, 2013, 02:32:34 PM »

DP ?  :-\
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Elena

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« Reply #8 on: April 19, 2013, 06:39:26 PM »

Depression?  but that IS a mental illness  ???
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« Reply #9 on: April 20, 2013, 07:26:34 AM »

Certainly, anxiety is a condition I could well do without as it grounds me.  Completely.  No way once the physical symptoms begin can I alter what is happening in my body.  When the adrenaline courses, my whole body feels warm particularly the veins  :o  ......... "D.P" is exactly?
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Victoria

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« Reply #10 on: April 20, 2013, 11:41:09 PM »

I believe DP is short for 'depersonalisation'. Anyone here suffering from anxiety would benefit from Paul David's book "At Last A Life" available from Amazon or his amazing website www.anxietynomore.co.uk. Paul's book has been a lifesaver for me x
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« Reply #11 on: April 21, 2013, 10:11:29 AM »

Aaahhh  -   :thankyou:
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grumpyandIknowit

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« Reply #12 on: April 23, 2013, 09:52:15 AM »

Thank you - printed it off twice. One to put on the wall and one to put in my pocket. It all makes clear sense........Thanks again X
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