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[Elena]

and from me too HB

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[CLKD]

It's OK to remember.  I allow myself 10 mins daily to think ofmy pets.  Certain issues bring it back.  Like this time of year  . I think lilac is a lovely idea.  I spent last evening filling a basket with pine cones and artificial flowers/C.mas coloured 'stuff' to put onto his parents' grave this year.  I will probably cover it with cling film to keep the worst of the weather off, and pin it down to stop it blowing away in the Winter weather.

It's OK to remember    does your OH feel sad at this time of year or don't you talk about it?

[Trey]

HB, you honor your daughter with memories and feelings.

[honeybun]

Yes OH feels sad,,,she was his little girl too. His heart was broken the same as mine. Sometimes people forget the daddy when they shouldn't. He cried as many tears as me and together we managed to move on.

Onward and forward though...I was blessed with another beautiful girl that I treasure.

Sometimes the memories just slip out no matter how hard you try. Some things are just not meant to be and she was one of them. I always remember thinking that although I only had her for five days she touched so many hearts and so many people.....that was her legacy.

Sorry this is all too down. There are a lot of people who have their heartache at this time of year. Mine was many years ago and my life has moved on......she just has a special little place in my heart.

Thanks for your kind words ladies.

Honeyb
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[CLKD]

Life is fragile ...........

[Oldteen]

Thinking of you HB. I take it that she was very poorly? Sometimes Nature decides it's for the best. You loved her and will never forget her. 

[flushtered]

 :hug:for HB and all others who need it at this time of year.

[pixie]

OMG watched some of 'how to cook xmas dinner properly' progs tonight - its enough to put you off watching Jamie Oliver stuff a turkey - looked almost pornographic! 

Otherwise a lovely Springwatch prog about otters with Martin Hughes-Games 

[CLKD]

 . that's me.  Today. 

[jillydoll]

Awww CLKD don't be upset!
Why you upset.?
You want me to come round and sort em out? 🤨.   
I'll have to get Jaypo too tho! One look at her and they'll hop it sharpish! 🥴

[CLKD]

Time of year.  Expectations from others 

[jillydoll]

You can only do what you can do! That's it!
I was like that when everyone came to us years ago.
Now I realise I shouldn't have stressed, just gone with the flow, and do only what I could.
Sometimes though, we over think everything and get ourselves into a state for nothing. I'm queen of that!
Everything WILL be ok.....promise...x

[CLKD]

Why this time of year though  does every thing so much more pressured?

[jillydoll]

Because we/ others have an expectation of what xmas should be like.
We run around after others, subconsciously wishing to make ‘their' xmas special.
In reality, do we really get the ‘perfect' Xmas? I doubt it. It causes more stress than any other time of year. But those that do get the perfect one, well, well done...
We just feel pressured to get everything ‘right' .
Try to relax, it maybe anticipation, when the day itself comes, you'll be released from all the pressure....x

[sheila99]

Where you bored again CLKD?? 

No point stressing, I bet you're more organised than I am yet we always muddle through. If anyone doesn't think it's up to scratch just ply them with alcohol until they fall asleep (or if all else fails drink it yourself...)  . I'm sure people appreciate everything you do (and cold Xmas lunch in the car is definitely beyond the call of duty).