I’m new here and desperately reaching out in the hope that someone might be able to offer me any sort of advice at all …
I’m 48 and in perimenopause and I’ve been on HRT for the past year (Femoston 2/10 and Testogel) which for a while was like a lifeline, all the symptoms cleared and I had my libido back again. After about 10-11 months I started to get mood swings again and my libido disappeared. Did a blood test and my GP advised that my testosterone was high and to spread the gel packet over 10 days instead of 8.
In the last couple of months it’s become impossible to orgasm when I’m with my partner, to the extent that I’d have to finish myself off with direct clitoral stimulation from a vibrator. Now even this isn’t working, I feel desensitised and almost numb and my clit has shrunk to the point of barely being able to see it.
I tried rubbing a bit of the Testogel on externally but it stung so much I had to wash it off. I’m at my wits end, I’m 48 and not ready to write off my sex life yet, it’s making me feel so dehumanised and disconnected from my partner (and myself). Does anyone have any advice for me please? 🙏🏻🙏🏻