Also.Dorothy, you say that " it's all ruined because of me ". P!ease.remember that you health is not a choice you made for yourself. So it cannot be your fault. I do I understand what you mean, I had CFS many years ago, for me it was moderate rather than severe as it is for you. It lasted almost 5 years. I too bad this 30 years ago, and probably as you know it was all quite new, little was known. I was just left to get on with it, it took 2 entire years before a Dr even told me it was CFS no advice or help at all.
Lately I have been severely exhausted particularly after exertion. And I do feel bad I am letting my husband down by not being able to do house or garden tasks as well as I did, even having to stop and sit down on a short walk. This is someone who a year ago would work 6 hours in the garden then go for a 2 hour power walk. Slowly this has gone.
I had many blood tests etc,to investigate and yesterday the gp told me the cfs has returned after being triggered by perimenopause. I am gutted. I don't feel as bad as I do previously but this relapse has stunned me. And my overriding fear is letting my husband down.
But I am on hrt and yes, our stories may not all be good. BUT despite this I am certainly so much better on hrt than off it. Genuinely. I couldn't be without it. I like others have had setbacks but seem to be hormonal stable now. It is So worth it for me.
Can you maybe consider that hrt may actually help you? You are in a dreadful way of health now, can you try to rethink that hrt may be a benefit to to your body and not make things worse? could it be worse than you are now? and I in no way mean that insensitively.
On my original bout of cfs I did become sensitive to stimu lants, like caffeine and alcohol so I understand you have been intolerant to medications before.
Are there also ME forums of others in your position who may be able to offer advice?
Do keep posting, whilst practical help isn't always possible, you are not alone. X