I was married for 34 years. By the time we separated our sex life and physical contact had stopped. I found sex painful so I avoided it. I didn't know it was menopause, i thought it was because i was tense. It was probably both. In addition, I had no desire, it was a chore, I just wanted to be left alone. It wasn't the only reason we separated I have to say but will have contributed. For the most we had a decent life together and were good friends. 3 years later I met a man, a bit younger than me, and I suddenly found desire again, even with the menopause issues, I wasn't put off. I found him very attractive and we still have a friends with benefits relationship 6 years on. He was very experienced and without the constraints of commitment and a life together it was liberating and exciting. Still is. So I'm trying to say, things are rarely straightforward. I know now that solving my menopause issues wouldn't have saved my marriage. I had libido, just not for him. We had become like siblings. We are actually friends again and had family Sunday lunch together yesterday but I have no romantic feelings. The other man makes me feel 20 again and it provoked me to sort out my VA in order to maintain a sex life. That said we are all different and content in different ways and want different things from life and if I hadn't met anyone, maybe I'd have been ok never being touched again. I'll never know