Hi Gilla999, really sorry to hear of your struggles but I can really relate to what you are saying , I too have struggled with getting a good balance on hrt I started it at 43 now 49 , and ive had the same response from doctors when I describe my symptoms there only answer is use more estrogen, I commonly hear that estrogen is a wonder hormone and makes us feel good but you are absolutely right too much becomes toxic and can be just as bad if not worse than too low , hrt has controlled my flushes well, but the joint and muscle pain remains awful actually it’s worse, I get bouts of over whelming fatigue heart palpitations which I’ve never had off hrt only on it, racing heart and spikes in bp the insomnia has never been cured ,I too have had the waking every hour or I’m just plain wide awake until 5am , I’m currently on my 3rd night of this I go round in circles with nausea , headaches and stomach pains , but the worst is the horrendous jittery feeling it causes not constantly but it comes in bouts when estrogen is obviously too high, I’ve been thinking for ages about getting off hrt so I can actually see what what my own normal is and then I can separate what the hrt actually causes, I think In peri it just adds too much at times I think getting an even balance may be easier post meno , I was on 4 pumps of estrogel down to 3 now will be moving to 2 soon and so on until I’m off it I then like you may restart really low if I feel I need too , hrt is absolutely a great thing and works amazing for a lot of women, but there’s not enough emphasis on using too much or the fact during peri it can create awful spikes in estrogen and result in feeling absolutely crap , I don’t think it helps that all these celebrities claim how amazing they feel, I mean it’s great they are creating awareness but I’ve never once heard one of them say I’ve struggled to get it right and I still feel awful , not a true representation of how it really affects alot of women, and for a change it’s really nice to read icelolly’s post where she’s had a positive outcome getting off hrt that gives me hope that hrt is not the be all of feeling good at this stage of life but absolutely agree with you that too much can cause awful symptoms, hope it goes well for you and you start to feel better soon will follow your progress with interest, take care x