Don't rush. There are other ways to be intimate without penetration or touching the vagina
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As oestrogen drops the tissues become thin and brittle. Using VA treatment as far into the vagina as is comfy is the 1st action, as well as a mositoror (sp) several times a day. Pat don't wipe after a wee.
If really painful buy a 'ring' from a mobility shop so that whilst sitting the buttocks support, giving the vaginal area space below so that there is no pressure there.
Let us know how you get on. Don't give up! When I get the need2P I take 2 'nurofen' capsules 3 times a day to ease the nip as the urine flow stops.