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Nas

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Feeling dreadful
« on: November 28, 2022, 07:25:34 AM »

God I feel awful.
I don’t think I can do this menopause any longer.
No sleep, my heart is racing, anxiety through the roof, weeing again at night and the worry, oh the worry of life, it’s exhausting me! I’m overthinking everything, worrying about everything. I can’t do it.

What is going on? Do I need more oestrogen! Is this just life now? It’s the anxiety.. it’s too much. I just want to stay in my bed and sleep.

Everything I try and up my patch, i feel ill and I hate the gel I don’t absorb.

Just feeling destroyed 😢
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discogirl

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #1 on: November 28, 2022, 07:48:59 AM »

hi nas
i just wanted to send you a big hug

i too am struggling with sleep.

im still learning about menopause and hrt but from what ive learned culprit is usually low estrogen. when you increase it takes time for body to adjust and settle and also finding the right dose for your body takes time.

a very good friend of mine on here told me that our bodies didnt get like this overnight and it takes time to resettle hormones.  your sleep will get sorted i think it just takes time.

you take care and keep talking xxx :foryou:
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jaypo

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #2 on: November 28, 2022, 08:34:04 AM »

Hi Nas,so sorry things are bad right now,the lack of sleep definitely makes everything 10 times worse,as discogirl says,your HRT is probably needing adjusted or may even a different one,anxiety is the pits,was the and is the worst symptom for me,get yourself back to the Dr plead for help
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VanillaLover

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #3 on: November 28, 2022, 08:40:12 AM »

So sorry you feel so bad. Hang in there!

Do you work? How busy are you generally? Is it possible to make some adjustments so that you have more time to rest? Have you had any CBT or anything? I found that very helpful for the “this will never get better” feelings and helped me so much with the anxiety.

Hugs x
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PoppyPopcorn

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #4 on: November 28, 2022, 08:57:16 AM »

I'm feeling the same and I think i'm not on a high dose enough of patches. Trying to speak to the GP about this is almost impossible and there's only one doctor at my practice who is any good with menopause. Have a video consultation with a private specialist tonight and hoping for some ideas on how to move forward.
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Kathleen

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #5 on: November 28, 2022, 09:38:06 AM »

Hello Nas

I am so sorry that you are suffering.

The only suggestion I can offer is have you tried asking for an implant? The NHS consultant I am waiting to speak to offers these to his patients and says that they are very effective.

I wish I could be of more help but you know that you are not alone with this horror show.

Take care and sending hugs.

K.
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Mary G

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #6 on: November 28, 2022, 01:12:18 PM »

Nas, with the benefit of hindsight I now know that serotonin levels are affected by tanking hormones and from what you have said, this could be part of the problem.  You definitely need to review your medication/dosage.

As soon as you enter perimenopause and progesterone rapidly decreases, a whole load of stuff starts to happen.   Some women develop insomnia, anxiety, depression, panic attacks, IBS, nausea and (in my case) migraines.   Next comes oestrogen drop off and as we know, vasomotor symptoms kick in.  So the menopause is an evolving situation and HRT regimes can suddenly stop working.

Menopause symptoms can be eliminated with the right type of HRT at the right dose but sometimes you need some extra help with other medication.   For example, I was able to control my migraines with hormone manipulation for years but I slightly reduced my oestrogen dose and it stopped working.  Long story short, I needed to add an antidepressant (amitriptyline) on a low dose because I needed more serotonin.  For me it's been a wonder drug and I feel very good on it with zero sure effects.   Amitriptyline not only works as an antidepressant, at low doses, it is a migraine preventative it also helps IBS, generic pain, insomnia etc.

I don't know what medication you are using right now but it's obviously not working and you need some extra help.  ADs get a bad press and yes, women have been fobbed off with them when they should be taking HRT but sometimes you need both.

I deeply regret being scared off ADs and not starting them much sooner.
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ToriiJ

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #7 on: November 28, 2022, 01:48:15 PM »

Nas, sorry not hear to offer advice but just letting you know I’m with you. I’m so done with life at the moment.

I just posted in the hope someone can help. It is all trial and error which sounds easy but whilst going through this it’s just hell on earth  :'(
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Booroo

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #8 on: November 28, 2022, 02:08:15 PM »

God I feel awful.
I don’t think I can do this menopause any longer.
No sleep, my heart is racing, anxiety through the roof, weeing again at night and the worry, oh the worry of life, it’s exhausting me! I’m overthinking everything, worrying about everything. I can’t do it.

What is going on? Do I need more oestrogen! Is this just life now? It’s the anxiety.. it’s too much. I just want to stay in my bed and sleep.

Absolutely feeling it with anxiety 💯I’m not on anything tried that last week didn’t end well
Everything I try and up my patch, i feel ill and I hate the gel I don’t absorb.

Just feeling destroyed 😢
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jaypo

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #9 on: November 28, 2022, 06:26:19 PM »

Ladies you MUST seek help,you do not have to feel this way,have any of you got a meno clinic nearby? Or ask your GP to refer you,alternatively,book an appointment with Dr Currie on here,there is also Dr Newson is on YouTube,always full of information for the meno x
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Suzysheep

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #10 on: November 28, 2022, 09:15:54 PM »

I’m so sorry to see you are still struggling so much Nas. Hugs to you. Xx
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Nas

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #11 on: November 29, 2022, 10:59:10 AM »

Thanks all, really appreciate your support.

Well, the menopause has to go on the back burner for now. I’ve had a change in my left eye for a while now and currently being investigated for Horners syndrome 🙁 Today means lots of scans, bloods etc, so it seems to never end!

Horners itself is potentially a symptom of something else and it’s the something else that needs to be investigated I guess.

Alas, I feel, the last 4 years, have been consumed with medical stuff.

Xxxx
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Kathleen

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #12 on: November 29, 2022, 11:39:32 AM »

Hello again ladies.

I am sorry that so many of you are suffering but hopefully you can take comfort from knowing that you are not alone.

Nas - I wish you well with your eye investigations and I hope these problems resolve soon.

Wishing you all well ladies.

K.
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Ayesha

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #13 on: November 29, 2022, 11:44:29 AM »

And they wonder why so many of us suffer with horrendous and crippling health anxiety.
Nas, you have been dealt a raw deal, sending love and best wishes and hope you get sorted sooner than later!! X
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Dotty

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Re: Feeling dreadful
« Reply #14 on: November 29, 2022, 11:50:16 AM »

Thinking of you, Nas x
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