I would hold hard about renewing the Vows, saving that for a more peaceful time in my Life. Is there any rush in all honesty?
U still seem to need to 'find him out'.
. Phones locked in safe where you are staying, mayB from the time U arrive until you check out?
Hopefully you can both open new routes for conversations. Perhaps put 2 hours to one side each week for an update. Have the outgoing/incoming Bank Statements to hand - we get paper ones as we requested them.
There is also the wooden spoon method: a completely independent person has the spoon which he/she hands to the person needing to speak. 5 mins with no interruptions other unless the person wants a moment to jot down notes. A short time out, then the spoon is handed over for responses ........ focusses on the topic in hand.