Hi Ladies,
I was wondering if anyone might be able to help with this… Been on HRT for a few years (4 pumps estrogel + mirena coil) and decided to try testosterone as i still had some symptoms so GP and i thought it would be worth a try. For the past 6 weeks i have been on Testogel (1 sachet for 10 days) but GP has just texted me that my ‘free testosterone is climbing and i need to stop testogel as per the Menopause Society guidance’.
Their computer system & data protection won’t let me have the numbers so i could see exactly what the numbers are so i don't know the exact levels - the GP will call me next week to explain. But is this normal? The weird thing is that i don't think the addition of testosterone had any effect on me - i was hoping for it to give me the oomph back, have more energy and help me with losing the body fat i gained in the early years of menopause etc. Also sex drive non-existent since menopause started 6 years ago, so that was the main reason for testosterone but nothing changed - however everyone says it can take 3 months or even longer for this to take effect.
Feeling demoralised… i know there are worse problems in life and i should be grateful . Any ideas what to do next? I am 50 years old now, am i going to feel like this for the rest of my life? Low on energy and ‘day dreaming’ of feeling like it would be nice to feel a little frisky but instead just nothing? I am not depressed, am also working with a counsellor on different issues, but was hoping to fix this no libido thing. Poor husband is very understanding but it seems to me that at 50 i should at least sometime feel like wanting to have sex but because of my non-existent sex drive it is painful so we have sex once a year and it is not a pleasant experience for me. By the way, dear old vagina is moist like hell due to estrogen, it’s just the ‘feeling’ thats missing. It is as if the connection between the brain and vagina is lost - the brain is thinking all the right things, but none of it travels down there where it used to switch things on and cause this marvellous feeling of desire. And it’s not the husband’s fault i promise, he is lovely and all that. Trying to create the desire/libido in my head doesn’t work either - fantasies, raunchy passages in books etc, nothing… The head works as it used to but nothing travels down there. So really was hoping for testogel to fix this as i am planning to live to 90s
Sorry for my ramble, and thank you for reading. Any thoughts are welcome xx