She is correct. However. We know that!! but when scared, low and awake in the early hours, it is easy not to be able to take control. For me it was the physicality of symptoms .
If you wake at 3.00, get out of bed. Make a cuppa, have a bath, watch the sunrise - focus on your breathing. Work up the body muscles from the ankles upwards; tense, relax. it re-focuses the brain but it is hard work initially. You are probably waking at that time to see if you are awake! It would happen to me
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The amount of 'valium' you are weaning off won't be having any effect. It is your mind worrying itself. I also found that making a list each evening of the chores needed the next day, helped. It allowed me to see what I have achieved rather than worrying about what I hadn't done! Anything not completed went on the next list. It was my way of taking back control of my mind set. When withdrawing my mind would 'what if' - when I realised that actually I didn't die in the night, that symptoms weren't worse with each drop in dosage by the end of the 9 weeks I was OK. Still here!
Because these types of drugs are sold as 'addictive' : and anti-depressant mediation isn't as it is short lived : one gets fixated on that word. I have never found those essential, for me, drugs addictive. At the time I had no option. I wouldn't be here without.
You aren't the same person. You are going through The Change. Make a list to take to your Psychiatrist.