Clairella - I posted for the first time today too. My heart goes out to you. What a horrible experience and I can imagine how angry and disillusioned you must feel.
It is unacceptable that information that is so core to your sense of wellbeing is almost 'thrown' at you in such a haphazard way. I don't think I noticed your age (sorry if I missed it), but I guess that will also have some bearing on how you feel about things, for example, were you near to the average age for menopause or younger? I really hope you can talk through some of this with a trusted friend.
I also hope work is being supportive. Do they have a menopause policy? Some places do but not many. Our HR Dept is drafting one since I realised it is a huge gap in our armoury or policies. Good grief, we have one for cleaning the office fridge (now redundant due to COVID)!!
This might be a good time to either see a menopause specialist if that is possible or find a GP (maybe even at a new practice) who actually knows about the links between your experiences and menopause. It sounds like you need some appropriate support to get you back on solid ground. I know it is not always easy to find what you need if you don't live in an area where there are lots of practices to look at.
Finally, because this is going on a bit (!), if you are through menopause that might take a wee while to sink in. You might even want some talking therapy or just to throw something because it has all been frustrating (I sometimes just chuck stones in the sea in order to be safe) Hopefully things will begin to stabilise a little for you, but seek out the help you need. In the meantime, have a good look at all the info on here and keep asking all your questions.
