Oh gosh - I'm a bit late to the party by the sounds of things. Such a shame you feel silenced Avalon. Someone said to me once 'be discerning when it comes to doctors'. I have always questioned the prevailing narrative - I used to rebel for the sake of it (shouty dominant father?) but I realise there is a balance to be had.
I had an aggressive grade 3 cancer at 41 and had always been hyper sensitive to drugs. I rejected the chemo and radio but absolutely had the life-saving surgery. The oncologist said I was "a nihilist and no good to anybody dead" and that I had a "death wish" as I mentioned before. I chose not to have the brutal treatments because I had a life wish and felt they would hurt me badly or possibly kill me. At the very least I could end up with chemo brain and my work is my brain.
To be clear, it works for some, I could even possibly choose it in the future if I had to. It's all about knowing your own body and making your own choices which are right for you at the time. I was given a 70% chance of being alive at 10 yrs without the additional treatments. 79% with all 3. It's 12.5 years on and zero recurrence. TOUCH WOOD!!
I have had abuse and hostility from people who haven't had the disease and knew very little of the research (mine was rare at the time). We should really just support each other regardless. We're on our own sometimes very lonely journeys.