Thanks ladies, slow getting round but hopefully that will improve soon
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Certain things do bring back memories, even tv shows I watch with names of people can bring me down. I do try to ignore it mostly but if I'm having a down day it can hit home & make ne feel crap
How awful for you Avalon, an arson attack!
Life does throw us all some really crap times, but i could never imagine what you ladies went through, but i do remember when i was 15, a man we knew said he'd give me a lift home from town ( he was late 30s early 40s), i said great, thought I'd save my bus fare. On the way home he pulled in a lay by, told me how lovely & good looking I was, then started to caress my boobs, i didn't know what to say i was so terrifed, then he undid my top and started kissing me on my boob, i said no and thankfully he stopped, then took me home. I never said a word to anybody and I've only told my husband ( in the last 3 years) I have never told any friends. This was back in the 80's. I would never of told my parents because I would have probably got told I must have encouraged it. I honestly take my hat off to you ladies, that was bad enough for me and I know many of you have been through far worse.
I've lived with it & to be honest I feel I'm over it. I have the love of a wonderful man now, we are 30 years married next May.
I just don't have the close relationship with my mum that a lot of my friends have and I can't talk to her. She said on the phone the other day she loved me and honestly I couldn't say it back, I just can't. I know its because I'd just had an op.
So sorry I've been rambling about my own problems