Oh for goodness sake! Why do they get in such a flap over a bit of local oestrogen, when it is such a tiny amount! But then, they have no training in menopause, and precious little interest. Compulsory training would be the way forward. Anyway, rant over, and don't let the b*st*rds grind you down!
Have you got Jane Lewis's book, Me and my Menopausal Vagina? Maybe you could present them with copy.
JP x