She has stopped posting in May. I've read her posts, she's in her early 50's, so, like you, she could still be perimenopausal and her own fluctuating hormones could be causing her mental issues. It's very complex, Dandelion, you just can't jump to conclusions based on someone else's experiences. Knowledge based on personal experience and quoting loads of articles is not necessarily the truth, especially YOUR truth, since this is a relative concept.
Yes, Valium could have 'messed up your whole CNS', but that is something you are already addressing by tapering off it. Focus on what you can do regarding irregular bleeding, then you can tackle the other stressors.