Hi Crosscat, I can only reiterate the message that you are 100% right to insist on getting the right treatment for your symptoms.
I was prescribed many ADs, first 7 years ago to treat ?anxiety? symptoms and sleep issues. None did the trick, and the side effects were terrible. Then 3 years ago, they gave me bupropion to alleviate my 'depression?, and later sertraline on top to help me sleep because bupropion wound me up too much. After more than two years I slowly stopped taking them because I felt so bad I couldn't do my job anymore, continuously felt super wired and tired at the same time, had hot flushes, couldn't sleep, and lost 90% of my physical endurance. It took me many months to get over the AD withdrawal symptoms.
Now I realize that all these were perimenopause symptoms, not mental health issues. I now take Estrogel and Utrogestan and I no longer have anxiety, heart palpitations, or mood flateness, my hot flushes have reduced to 5% of what they used to be and my endurance is (very) slowly coming back.
Had I been given HRT instead of ADs, I wouldn't have had to stop working, because my symptoms would not have increased to such an acute level. I would not have lost friends and support and been left with no life, feeling like I was a total failure.
Keep fighting Crosscat, I promise you it will be worth it.