Of course you didn't mean anything upsetting rolercoaster, we can see that from the sympathetic wording of your original post. I got the impression you were offering reassurance in what is a terribly difficult situation for GRL. I think we all feel very protective when a member suffers such dreadful misfortune & I think CLKD was simply trying to explain that there was a long history behind the situation. I don't think anyone meant any offence.
It's devastating when any of us is diagnosed with BC, but treatments are well rehearsed & very effective these days, so there is every reason to be optimistic of a full recovery. Unfortunately 1 in 8 women will develop BC at some point in their lives & in my experience breast surgeons are some of the most open-minded medics regarding causation, as the condition is complex & varied & the state of knowledge still incomplete.
It's clear from this thread that we all share your good wishes for GRL. I was also sorry to hear of your own struggles & hope you find useful info, wisdom & support on the forum, as menopause can be such a difficult time for so many of us.
Keep posting.
Wx