Hey Bobidy,
At my worst in peri, I had that "lump in throat" feeling, terrible acid reflux and a feeling like I couldn't inflate my lungs like someone was sitting across my chest. I also had horrendous nausea and I often felt like I was hungry but felt awful when I ate.
I had permanent ear ache in my right ear and the whole lot lasted 2 years ish! When I breathed out it sounded like there was a whistle.
I was given lansoprazole on permanent repeat. It helped with the reflux but nothing else. My doctor didn't seemed bothered, couldn't find anything wrong with my chest or my throat. I even had a camera put up my nose and down my throat and they couldn't find anything.
So when I got on the right hrt, the nausea and everything stopped. Including the earache. Turns out that the earache and faceache were from jaw clenching due to severe anxiety. Same with the nausea. Have no idea why the feeling of not being able to breath came from but my anxiety and panic attacks had been off the scale on a permanent basis and looking back I have come to the conclusion that the whole lot was down to "muscle tension" internal in the stomach and chest and in the throat. Jaw clenching is known to cause all sorts of problems with the head and face including tooth ache according to my dentist.
They have all been gone now 12 months except for some earache occasionally and acid reflux when I eat the wrong things. Both are just occasional when I get stressed not permanent like before. My anxiety and panic attacks stopped 12 months ago despite me having them for about 10 years and having been on all sorts of medication and pain killers which did absolutely nothing.
I don't know if it is the same for you both, but I spent years trying to find solutions for all you describe and other symptoms no could find a cause for no matter how hard they looked. I reckon my body had gone into total spasm and stayed stuck. Its so hard to work out whether these things are an actual problem with an easy solution or just the bodies reaction to a very bad meno and worrying about not being able to find the cause just makes it worse. I can only report what happened to me in hindsight xx