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[suzysunday]

Turkish delight, hope you don't mind me asking but did you find that having sex made the urgency to pee worse? 

[Turkish delight]

Hia Suzy!

I don't mind, ask away!

No not at all, no pee issues having sex.

Just needing to go suddenly without much warning or time to get on the loo throughout a normal day.

Haven't had any accidents though, so i'm pleased about that.

TD
 

[Tc]

Good news TD. 
Did you put it in high up or a bit lower down?
Did you use the yes "vm"  I bought some but it does t have a  applicator. I would prefer that to put some just inside. It's a bit tricky with finger 
I'm realy annoyed at my gp for saying I cant get it on prescription . At the moment I dont pay for prescription so it's expensive for me to buy it.
Glad to hear you are seeing be wfits already.
Xxx

[Turkish delight]

Thanks TC!

I went for two 3rds.

A bit horrified about the plastic waste of the blue applicator thingy though, trying to think of ways I can reuse them once washed lol!

Maybe a nice windchime, haha, or maybe tie a length of them on some string as a mobile for a baby's cot teehee, jokes obv!

Not picked up the yes yet, they had to order it in. The one I have coming has the applicators I think. Hey if it didn't I could have used the vagifem blue stick thing to apply it lol!

Annoying you can't get your GP to prescribe it, try another doc in your surgery see if they will do it for you.

TD

[Tc]

Sorry. I added to my post and I think we crossed over.
Did you use the yes VM?

[suzysunday]

Thanks Turkish delight,.  I just have a mental block to getting back into sex. I got cystisis last September after off hrt for 3 months,  then the niggling wee feelings on and off.  Really want to have sex but so worried about cystisis and lingering wee feelings.   I have been using ovestin for months and feel lubricated.   Just got this anxiety about sex and I know only me and lovely partner can work it out. Of course  the longer it goes the worse it gets.   

Regarding Yes and applicators, they are expensive.   I don't know why the Yes moisturiser tube doesn't come with a washable applicator like ovestin.  You can try filling and applicator from the Yes tube, but the tube opening is not very suited to this.  I think Yes think washable applicators are unhygienic,  but ovestin applicators are OK to wash.  I really don't see the point with the Yes moisturiser tube without applicator, and it's not cheap. Boot's own brand gel comes with a real usable applicator.

[Tc]

Suzy. You mention not having sex making it worse but please try to put that out of your mind. I think the "use it or lose it" mantra can be unhelpful. It puts pressure on us ladies. It's hard to relax and be in the moment  when you're thinking "if I dont do it I'm making the problem worse". It then builds into a realy big deal in your head.
Maybe with massage, a bath together or something like that and thinking "this doesnt have to lead further" might take the pressure off and lessen the  anxiety.
Hope that's not too personal but your unhappiness about it realy came across in your post so I wanted to say something I thought might help.
Xxxx

[suzysunday]

Thanks for the reply Tc, really kind. My partner is wonderful and we have had a few attempts that were not successful on both sides.   We do take things slow , but we don't want things to drift indefinitely until we forget we once had a sex life!  But cystisis is so HORRIBLE and it gets associated with sex.  Now these lingering uti symptoms are something new to me.   Every worse case scenario gets in my head,  and with a holiday in several weeks I start thinking what if I have wee problems before or during and everything gets more stressful.   

[Turkish delight]

Hia Suzy, the struggle is real!

It's good to talk about it I think bcz for us women sex begins in our mind before getting anywhere else.

Why have you come off hrt if you don't mind me asking? As it sounds like cystitis etc started after that?

Obv one must drink responsibly, and I do. I have one Malibu or Tia Maria about once a month, and no other alcohol. But if I'm feeling less frisky, I find sometimes a Malibu and Coke helps me lose my edginess, so I feel freer in my mind and more responsive to being amorous.

Going to start Testogel soon, hopefully that will help grease the wheels too. Have you tried that?

TD

[Tc]

Suzy. It is horrible I know. And I understand you want that part of your life back.

What about if you were to get some anti biotics from doc to take  just in case. You could take them on holiday with you.
I was told when I was young to always go for a wee as soon after as poss.
Have you ever tried the "powders" you mix up for cystitis. I have found they act much better if you take them straight away. Maybe you could take one straight after or just before sex? And take a pack on holiday too.
Xxx

[suzysunday]

I came off tibolone after post meno bleeding after 18 months. It stopped when I stopped the tibolone, but the hysteroscopy, under general anaesthetic because I don't cope well and all the hospital stuff was unbearable and stressful..  It's made me too scared to risk that again with systemic hrt.

[suzysunday]

Tc, don't know if my gp would give out "in case" antibiotics.  I have thought of buying some trimethoprim on line.  After getting cystitis a few times I became vigilant to washing before and after sex and weeing.  I haven't used the powders before or after sex so will give that a try.

[Tc]

Suzy I have been prescribed trimethoprim for cystitis before
I've just looked it up and it says it can also be taken as a "prevention" in 100mg doses and also it says
"For cystitis which comes on  after having sex a one off dose of 100mg  within 2 hours of sex.".

Sorry I cant post a link but it's the NHS website under medicines.
Maybe your doc can prescribe it after all.
Xxxx

[suzysunday]

That's great advice, thanks. That gives me more confidence to ask my gp.

[Katejo]

Tc, don't know if my gp would give out "in case" antibiotics.  I have thought of buying some trimethoprim on line.  After getting cystitis a few times I became vigilant to washing before and after sex and weeing.  I haven't used the powders before or after sex so will give that a try.

My GP has sometimes been unwilling to do this but not always. The urogynaecologist was perfectly happy to give me 2 courses of Trimethroprim to keep as reserve. She understood how much easier it is to have such a reserve to only use if you really need it. She also says that 3 day courses of AB are a complete waste of time and shouldn't be given out. My reserve courses are both 7 day ones.