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[Bradenton69]

HI there

I am 48 years old in a couple of weeks and my Doctor gave me the details for this website (great Doctor).

I have been peri menopausal now for 2 years and also suffer from PCOS/Lesions (which have caused obstructions to my bowel and bladder area. 

My Doctor has sent me for 2nd opinions but the hospital will not perform Hysterectomy due to lesions.

I am basically struggling with very low mood.  The rest of the symptoms I can tolerate for now but its the low mood that is really difficult.  The only thing they can offer is a low dosage of Prozac as they say I cant get HRT??

Can any one help or is anyone else in same boat??  I am currently taking various vitamins and oil evening primrose but really struggling.

Many thanks

[Hurdity]

Hi Bradenton69

 

Sorry to hear about your medical problems, but also I don't really know anything about PCOS and HRT. There are actually very few contra-indications to HRT and PCOS is not listed. Are you taking medication for it maybe?

I would pursue this if possible ie ask why you cannot have it - or if you don't get anywhere then either ask to be referred to a specialist gynae -  ideally a menopause clinic or maybe have a £25 consultation with Dr Currie (details on home page of main website - scroll down) and then if the outcome is favourable then take to your doctor.

If you really are unable to take it then yes there are various prescribable alternatives but if you can take it then HRT is the best option. Here is a link to the alternatives: http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2053369117711646?hootPostID=6690d93930a10b86869c48433ab506e7

Also there is some evidence for St John's Wort being weakly effective for low mood I think?

Hurdity x

[CLKD]

Prozac would not be my first choice, I have had many ADs since 1988 and that particular one made me  ......

Maybe ask your local Pharmacist which AD would ease your symptoms so that you can go to your GP with information as to what is more suitable, some ADs are found to ease for example, hot flushes.  Some do find that St John's Wort can lift mood but should not be taken with any other medications.

How is your diet over-all? 

[Bradenton69]

Thanks.


I cant take John Wort due to PCOS.

My diet is relatively good.  I cant take gluten or dairy - I have all the fun haha and go to gym 4 times a week.

Just want to help lift black days easier than they do.  I can handle dizziness, sore joints etc just when low mood comes in its causing a lot of strain at home.

[CLKD]

How does the 'low' mood manifest?  For me it can be sudden - a real dip and despair ...... even though I take Anti-depressant.

[Bradenton69]

It is sudden!!  One minute I feel fine then its like a big black cloud and I pull into myself.  I am recently married and my husband is so patient.  |He is doing more round house and cuddles me constantly.  Problem is I am being very sensitive and this is making things worse. I just go up to our room and break my heart crying.  Its such a weird feeling one minute fine then black cloud kicks in.

I am so tired most of the time but keep pushing self to go to gym.  Also dosent help that I cant shift weight which gets me down also.

Like I said my Doc has been great (she is also going through it) and said that all she can do is prescribe Anti depressant (low dose).  I tried before but lasted 4 weeks with the terrible side effects. 

[CLKD]

I had to try several ADs B4 one helped due to dreadful nausea.

Maybe drop the gym?  Putting yourself under pressure won't help.  Gentle exercise with your new husband?  Exercise is 'good' but currently I can't walk longer than 10 mins.  without my thighs aching and then I feel really worn out.  I lack stamina.

Also if you had a big build up to the wedding ........... it is usual to have a dip after all the preparations etc., be kinder to yourself?  Think back to the last couple of years and consider if it's been full on? 

[dazned]

Sorry to hear that you are struggling at the moment,I do empathise with you.
Have you considered asking your gp to try a different AD? There are many types ,unfortunately like HRT they can take a time before you see any improvements. I tried a few before I settled on one. Great that you are keeping active with the gym,but if that gets too much could you just go out walking?Maybe you could sign up to some yoga classes too,might help you mentally as well. Keep us posted how you go.

[Bradenton69]

HI there

I posted very briefly re peri symptoms and I thought I could fix it myself, or that it would go away and get better.  Guess what it hasnt it has got worse.

I am now 16 weeks without a period and you would think I would be feeling yeeha but nope.  I have all PMT symptons incs really sore boobs and my anxiety is through the roof.  Even started having panic attacks and avoiding meeting people that I can get away with cancelling on.  Things at home are getting very strained as my 19 year old step daughter is off from university and is playing my buttons around the house with laziness.  If I say anything its causing stress between my husband and I.

It has got to the point where I dont recognise myself anymore, both mentally and physically, and just want to shut myself away.

As I have endometriosos/cysts on my ovaries I am still unsure if HRT is for me or what else I can do.  Even thinking about paying for consultation that was previously suggested.

Any help please I am desperate

[CLKD]

WHOA!  sit the step-daughter down and explain what is happening to you.  Maybe make boundaries: she keeps her living area clean/not, she deals with her laundry and cooks a few times a week ....... what ever fits into your Life-style?  She is the visitor after all.  She is now an adult, used to doing her own thing in her own time  but this is your house so Rules still apply.  Your husband should be on YOUR side  at least in front of the daughter.

Teens are born to push buttons  . What's the worst that can happen?  This should have been discussed with her father prior to her return but now you need to explain to him what you require in order to help at this time.  Maybe print off 'hints fo husbands" from here?  Hand to them both!

It won't go away, it's The Change.  Why do you need to pay for a Consult?  your GP should be able to refer you to a menopause clinic or appropriate Gynae Consultant.

[Bradenton69]

Thanks again.

She lives with us and my husband is being very supportive and is on her back as much as me.  I feel that I am on it more as I do a lot more round house.  I have now booked an appointment with my GP.  Need to do something I cant go on like this for years to come.

[CLKD]

Take a list of symptoms with you?

Have that talk round the table with the daughter.  Has she lived in Halls or been in a group share?  She should know how much things cost etc. but maybe feels that this is 'your' house and doesn't want to interfere? also, if she thinks that she's been 'busy studying'  . Would she be up to a rota for chores ?  If you don't ask but try not to come over as You Must ....... but "I could do with a hand round the house because X, Y, Z so could you tell me what you would like to do each day?"