Hi Pand66
Sorry to hear about your menopausal symptoms but it is incorrect that fibroids are a contra-indication to HRT! They are not! Whoever made you come off HRT for that reason is wrong. I also had a small fibroid which seems to have disappeared and I have been on HRT for over 11 years!
This is what it says on this website about fibroids:
Fibroids are benign smooth muscle tumours of the uterine (womb) wall and are dependant on estrogen. They tend to shrink after the menopause but shrinkage may not occur, or they may even increase in size with HRT use. Increase is thought to occur in 25% of HRT users and mainly occurs in the first six months of therapy. There is some evidence that transdermal (patch or gel) but not tablet HRT nor tibolone may promote fibroid growth. [ref 24] Fibroid size can be monitored by regular examinations and sometimes by ultrasound scans. There is some evidence that the use of the progestogen releasing intra-uterine system, Mirena may cause fibroids to reduce in size. Mirena is often used in the perimenopause by women who have heavy periods and/or require contraception and can provide the progestogen part of their HRT. If they have been identified as the definite cause of your bleeding then the advice should be to make appropriate changes to your hRT regime and monitor them - not to stop if you wish to continue and they are alleviating your symptoms.
How old are you, how long were you on HRT for, what was your cycle doing before you started HRT, how long since you stopped and which type were you on? I hope you don't mind all the questions but answers will help us to help you
The alternatives you mention unfortunately as you have found - don't actually work, only HRT (and some prescribable alternatives - anti-depressants - for those who cannot take HRT for valid medical reasons).
Hope this helps
Hurdity x