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Lalb1

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Hello
« on: February 01, 2018, 09:08:16 AM »

Hi, after a lot of looking online scaring myself I finally found this site. Reading through some of your questions and replies has made me realise I'm not dying from some incurable illness..it's perimenopause. Even though the doctors won't agree it's that.
Thanks for reading and helping me realise I'm not going crazy!

Background- 43yrs old. Been having strange symptoms on and off the last 18months. These last 3 months everything's become worse.
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Dotty

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Re: Hello
« Reply #1 on: February 01, 2018, 09:17:47 AM »

Why won't doctors believe you?
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Alicea

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Re: Hello
« Reply #2 on: February 01, 2018, 09:30:17 AM »

Hi Lalb1 and welcome! I'm only 42 myself, nobody can tell you beforehand how isolating this is. I don't know what I'm doing myself, so may not be much help...but hello anyway x
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Dancinggirl

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Re: Hello
« Reply #3 on: February 01, 2018, 12:29:54 PM »

Hi and welcome to MM Lalb1

It's amazing how ignorant doctors still are when it comes to the menopause.  Read up all the info on this site to get clued up and get back to us with questions. I had an early menopause so have 25 years experience of HRt treatment and many others on this site are pretty knowledgable, so we are here to help.  DG x
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Hurdity

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Re: Hello
« Reply #4 on: February 01, 2018, 05:37:14 PM »

Hi Lalb1

 :welcomemm:

What are your periods doing - are they irregular - short and long cycles, light/heavy etc? If they are and you are getting classic menopausal symptoms then your doc should do blood tests to see if you are going through an early menopause. If your periods haven't changed yet - then you may be at the pre-peri stage but could be imminent. There are types of contraceptive pill that help to suppress the cycle and control mood swings etc so do ask if there is any more advice you need :)

Hurdity x
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Lalb1

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« Reply #5 on: February 01, 2018, 09:40:07 PM »

Hi,
Well for the last 18 months I've had weird symptoms around the time of ovulation, periods and just in general.
My ovulation symptoms were initially dodgy tum, shakes,panicky at night with high temp, bad headaches,itchy skin, cold shivers,cold/throat symptoms.
This then changed in the last 4 months, the dodgy stomach stopped and I didn't suffer as badly. Then the last two months I've developed a rash on my forearms the week before my period along with cold like symptoms and horrrible breast pain.
I was on the pill (Microgynon 30) and have been back and to the docs. (Male locum)-useless!
He's adamant because I'm on the pill the rash and other symptoms I've been experiencing can't possibly be due to perimenopause. I asked for bloods which he refused cos as on pill wouldn't show any change.
My periods used to be every 29 days and would be heavy for 3.5 days and light for 2.5-3 days. Now tho.. periods are every 26-27 days and are very light. First day heavyish but nothing like before then 2.5 days of light.
Along with so many other symptoms I've forgotten (brain fog is unreal) arm pain,higher temp all time,dry eyes,fatigue,bad taste in mouth,sore breasts,night sweats,can't sleep, anxious,clumsy,dizziness,palpitations at night,itchy skin... I'm sure there are some I've not put on here.

Really am so grateful I've found this site cos it's really helping me see I'm not going mad!
Thanks for replies and reading 😊
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Ruby10

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« Reply #6 on: February 01, 2018, 11:39:09 PM »

Hi lalb1

Welcome to the site, I am a recent newbie here and have found it a very helpful site to be on . You sound like you are having all the symtoms like me . I am in perimenopause stage and just stared HRT so waiting for it to kick in and help.

I hope you find it helpful on this site and remember you can ask anything and someone will always help with great knowledge on here .
ruby10

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CLKD

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« Reply #7 on: February 02, 2018, 01:17:53 PM »

 :welcomemm:  browse round. Make notes! 
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TheWorstWitch

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« Reply #8 on: February 02, 2018, 03:33:55 PM »

Welcome!

First thing I'd say is don't be fobbed off by a Dr who takes the view of the one you saw - they really aren't all like that! Does your surgery have a specialist contraceptive nurse? If so she might be worth a visit as some of them have a linked interest in menopause as well.  Otherwise try to see a different GP - and don't assume a female one will always be best - I know you'd think so, but some still take the "toughen up and get on with it" approach!
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Emerald2017

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« Reply #9 on: February 03, 2018, 05:02:02 PM »

Hi and welcome! The forum is very helpful and fantastic! I'm 42 and on hrt.
Early menopause is a very tough and isolating phase, I feel that's very unfair but life is unfair!
I'm grateful for hrt and try not to think so much and just go on my life.
My biggest fear is about premature aging and diseases. My gyn said to me that age ages us and with my estrogen I will not age faster than the others, just the opposite! I don't know if he just try to give me courage but it helps! 🌹
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Dancinggirl

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« Reply #10 on: February 03, 2018, 07:08:23 PM »

I would like to reassure you a bit Emerald. My mother had a premature menopause and she didn't have HRT; she is now 89 and still looks young for her age. The only thing that is bad is her osteoporosis - which hasn't given her that much trouble - she has simply shrunk a lot. HRT will protect your bones but it is important for everyone to get enough weight baring exercise - lots of brisk walking will do the job and sunshine to get the vitamin D so younabsorb the calcium.
DG x
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Emerald2017

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« Reply #11 on: February 03, 2018, 07:30:02 PM »

Thank you Dancinggirl for your kindness, I think that my estrogen crush had a terrible effect on my brain. I did not recognize myself and I had a terrible time.
I'm definitely better now and try not to worry too much about my health.
I continue my training as crossfit athlete and give time to my body to adjust.
Love to hear from you! 🌹
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