Thank you all so much for replying. I just composed a long post but managed to delete it when attempting to preview it, so will try again!
Dancinggirl - sorry you have been suffering in this way for so long. I've seen urologists and also been diagnosed with IC/Painful Bladder Syndrome although, after a cystoscopy, my bladder looked normal. I use the usual 'flare management' techniques and avoid trigger foods etc, but am just so sick of the (often useless) attempts to try to damp down the symptoms.
I always felt that some infection might be involved, as this all started after an acute urine infection which never really went away. I've taken long-term, high-dose antibiotics but found these to be of limited help, while also causing side effects and thrush. I decided to see the gynae to discuss the hormonal aspect to all of this, having found the MM website and been amazed at the other women suffering similar symptoms (I was amazed to learn that VA didn't just involve the vagina, for example). It was also an eye-opener when I met the gynae to hear that she had treated so many women in similar circumstances.
Kkay - I think I remember your previous posts about this, and thank you for thinking about me! Interesting to hear that your vulvar specialist told you that a cream would be needed, which is pretty much what I was thinking. It's not possible to get compounded creams in the UK, I don't think. How long have you been using the creams, and have you noticed any good results? I did try to increase my systemic HRT by moving to a higher dosage patch, but had no beneficial effect after a couple of months and was suffering such bad breast pain (not just discomfort, actual stabbing pain) that I reverted to the lower dose. I've been thinking about the Mona Lisa Touch and have read differing anecdotal reports on whether or not it could help urethral/bladder symptoms, so interesting to hear that urologists and urogynaes in the US are taking it up. I know who did Maryjane's treatment, so perhaps I need to bite the bullet and make an appointment to discuss it with her.
Hurdity - I did try the Estring but didn't get on with it - it kept falling out (not sure what this says about my insides)! You are quite right that I should see my GP. It's just that their attitude seems not to be very pro-HRT and, as I'm already on topical and systemic oestrogen.... I think I will be brave and go to see them, though.
Annie0710 - this is very helpful. I will try the GP first but reserve the right to look online if I need to.
Thanks once again. I will report back! x