Hello Sparkle and DaisyB and thank you for your comments.
I know many of us can't wait for the day when our lives are no longer dominated by changing hormones, y'know a bit like being a bloke lol.
During my time reading the forum and talking to other women I know irrational fears are commonplace and according to my trusty meno book it is due to a sense of unease caused by neuro transmitters registering oestrogen loss. My book also says that " it has been found that oestrogen prevents anxiety, which may explain why anxiety is such a dominant symptom of the menopause" and " menopausal women are actually suffering from natural tranquilizer withdrawal". Yep, think I can agree with all of that!
Wishing you well ladies inspite of it all.
K.