I had some symptoms in Peri but not too bad but I didn't know what it was. I'm 61 now and it became a major problem about 3 years ago. I had been to the gp prior but only got referred to hospital gynaecologist when I got bad atrophy, painful sex and sore outer vagina. I think maybe the Valium may relax the nerve endings as antidepressants can be prescribed for this, mainly a mild one, amyltryptiline. I so relate to your anxiety, it really takes your life over. Try and get some local or systemic hrt from your doctor, though not a great time for seeing them.