I'm generally a fairly private person, but I guess I don't have a problem with being outed by friends because I've always been pretty open with them about my experinces in life, not just meno, so I'm sure any who may come here probably would have already heard most of my stories.
Just one more point I will make though is how would any women feel if they weren't allowed to post on say a prostate cancer support forum even though their partner could be affected by it? I think a lot of women would feel they had a right to be involved in discussions about it because it affected their life too, and men can't always be relied on to be proactive about their health. We can't always have everything our way and expect to be included in everything if we aren't prepared to reciprocate.
Anyway it appears this discussion is moot because, by the lack of input from admin, it's fairly obvious there is no intention to even discuss this rule. So be it. They are the rule makers. I don't have any men in my life who are going to need to learn more about menopause because I will tell them everything they need to know, but there are a lot of women who need more male support.