Maelynn - make sure that he isn't bringing home anything nasty 'down there'!
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..... have you phoned The Girlfriend and told him about you being the No 1 in his life ;-). Time to take care of you perhaps, smoking won't help long-term.
If he is worth fighting for then time to put down some ground rules? Maybe turn him out and have no contact for 3 months, tell him to find a flat so that he can indulge his latest passion. He might well have a double take about what he really has to lose! i.e. your doing his washing, cooking, cleaning .........
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