Your vaginal symptoms are unlikely to ease without appropriate atrophy treatment which your GP or Practice Nurse can advise on.
With regards abuse - you have insight which is half the battle. The Change can be tiring. Symtpoms may arrive as a shock!
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! Do think about what YOU need and have a little list in your head about how you can get there.
Maybe start by walking away each time he belittles you? Does he row or get nasty? I would say i.e. 'I am walking into the other room because last year you said this several times but it hasn't altered my menopause symptoms, why do you think words would be able to over-ride a hormonal imbalance?' Trouble is, my Dad would follow Mum from room to room ranting
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If you gain information as suggested here, you will have some preparation to act upon. Give yourself a time scale which gives you hope, you may not be able to act on it but it keeps your mood 'up'. The Change is impossible to over-rule as it's a natural part of a womans' life! Various treatments can help symptoms ……. does he go to the GP with you maybe your GP could ring him to explain.
Remember too that we are capable of loving someone even if we hate how they are, what they say, how they act. But we are not responsible for how they are, what they say, how they act - he is a big boy and should take control of how he is. But if he is truly abusing you then he will 'never be wrong' and will always be able to justify what he is, what he says, how he acts. Is he someone that, if you met in a Pub. tomorrow, a person you would want to be with ? Do you feel safe with him?
I supported a friend through an abusive relationship, I didn't like the guy from the first day I met him because he put her down in front of us, complete strangers. No caring man would do that. I watched from a distance and eventually after a few months she began to worry about his actions, including when he pulled her along the street by her hair!!! It took 18 months after that B4 she walked away ……. sadly that was the end of our friendship as she had to move to stop going back to him.
Some people find that by making plans to leave in their head, that they become stronger. That what is said matters less, they begin to see that maybe it is time to make changes and it gives them the strength to leave. Does he hit out?