Ms Saucy, life can be so hard, breathing can be hard, putting one foot in front of the other can be hard, and you are managing all of this whilst dealing with problems that would cause most people to falter who had support and backup, let alone managing alone . Your daughter is hurting, and retaliating by hurting the only person she knows wont falter in their love for her. To try it with others is risky and she's not prepared . to take risks. Unconditional love shown by you is a different matter.
this forum is amazing and the love support and help shown to anyone in distress is humbling. I hope you re consider and maybe find after a bit of peace and reflection you will come back.
One of my daughters went off the rails too, she was problematic from about 13, her school life suffered, she got in with the wrong crowd, in trouble with the police on numerous occasions, and we almost gave up , we were heartbroken and suffered from anxiety, worry, stress, insomnia ,you name it. We had three other children who never gave us any bother other than the normal teenage angst. We were surrounded by friends with perfect children, who we know would have been shocked if they knew the half of what we were dealing with. We had no one to turn too and the strain of pretending everything was fine nearly finished me off. Eventually at the age of 22 she moved abroad and lived there for three years, then come home for a brief period before moving again. Now at 27, she's back , renting a house with a friend and at last I feel we are moving forward. We don't see much of her, but when we do, its improving and we can now start working on rebuilding a relationship Please Please hang in Ms Saucy, time does help and it does get better. Be kind to yourself too, you have suffered imaginable grief and need to be loved.
God Bless and sending gentle hugs x
