Hi Sallyyy and welcome to MM
What a tough time you are going through. You need to feel strong and full of health so you can support everyone - a lot of pressure. Firstly, you must put your health and wellbeing first so do seek help and support from wherever and whoever you can - your husband is getting the best treatment so you need the best treatment as well.
We are here to support you if we can so do keep posting.
You don't say how old you are? I suspect in your 40s?
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The symptoms you are describing sound like the early stages of peri menopause. My peri stage started in my 30s and I had all the symptoms you describe. The fulness under your ribs could simply be digestive issues possibly due to stress but it is best to ask the GP about this?
I'm sure your GPs are aware of what is going on with your husband's cancer, so do make an appointment to talk through how you are feeling and get some advice. Try to find out if one of the GPs in the practise has an interest in treating menopause symptoms - write down all your symptoms, concerns and questions so you can get the best out of the visit. Ask if there is a menopause clinic in the area as well. You need reassurance at this stage.
To be honest, I would be very surprised if you DIDN'T have aches and pains in your neck and shoulders - you are going through a very stressful time. Do consider trying some Mindful Meditation or other relaxation techniques - I find these essential to aid sleep and reduce stress generally. It is very common to became anxious when meno starts as well. Eat well, take exercise regularly, if you can, and indulge yourself with the odd treat.
Do read up all the info on this site to get clued up - knowing what we women go through when meno hits can really help alleviate the anxiety - you then know you are not alone with these symptoms.
You may not be ready for HRT just yet but if flushes and night sweats emerge then it is worth considering.
DG x