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[cjmca]

I just wanted to say to you that I'm so very sorry that you're having such a tough time.  I have VA and it comes with the little cuts, horrid dryness, itchiness, and like CLKD the bladder discomfort.  If you're losing some urine, absolutely follow the fab ladies advice here - off to a meno specialist, tell GP to eff off. No need for you to be experiencing that and it's perfectly treatable.

I find it helpful to make a list of symptoms and a list of questions before I go into a consult. Then if I get upset I just hand over the list and let them do the talking!

With regard to washing down there, I use Silcocks Base. I think it falls under the category of aqueous wash/cream. Has consistency of cream but add water and it becomes "soapy", doesn't burn and is moisturising. Get it in the local chemist.

I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you. Take one day at a time. I went through a patch of not being able to eat, I was so stressed out I couldn't function. Get the help you need, and deserve!  Just start by eating little bites here and there, of something you like. Treat yourself, be kind to yourself. Don't beat yourself up either. You will get better, and you're absolutely not alone. Big hugs!

[Silly]

CJMCA    I found self referral clinic  but I'll have to wait till Monday and I will go into town tomorrow and check washes out.

[Dawncam]

Brilliant. Good luck hon.

Dxx

[Pam Madra]

Just interested to know few things. My gp has given me antidepressant pristiq but not much help wiht my anxiety. Nausea and vomit is also my main issue with it. Now another dr asked me to take zoley pill as it will help with hormones to settle in. I am so lost not knowing what do? Because I am perimenopause hrt is not suggested to me. any suggestions

[Machair]

Guinea Girl it is just so lovely to hear from you again. I remember we had long chats about guinea pigs some years ago! Also so sorry about your Mum. Mine is in a very similar predicament to how yours was, in fact she is bleeding from her bladder and cancer is suspected, but as she is so frail it is not yet decided if further investigations will be done or not. I know how you feel not having anyone to share your worries with, but you have us and we will help and support as best we can.xx

[CLKD]

Pam Madra …….. if the medication is causing you bad symptoms then ask your GP for one that eases anxiety too.  There are a few out there.  Make a list of the symptom/s you would like to ease and ask your Practice Nurse/GP for advice.  peri shouldn't be a reason not to discuss/prescribe HRT!

[Silly]

  Machair I remember you I'm very pleased to hear from you and can feel how you'll feel about your Mum, it's a worry I don't know if your Mum is the same as mine but they don't seem to worry like we do almost as if they don't seem to want to know much.  I hope she gets seen to OK and things go well.  Times have changed haven't they I remember posting and my posts were like they are from a different person more cheery, I think everything that's happened it's hard to be the same again like all stuffings been took out of you.   I only have one Guinea now I had to have her sister put to sleep in April  the one remaining is very happy though as she no longer has her sister to mount  and so is calmer.  I will keep posting as otherwise I chew over things and when asked if I'm ok by neighbours etc I just say fine so it's nice not to act fine xx

[Maryjane]

I had the diagnosis of LS at the beginning of this nonsense nearly four years ago now.

It turned out to all be VA. You shouldn't use the steroid cream without a positive biopsy , as if you use the cream before it can clear it up , but equally if it's not LS it can make the VA worse.

In the days I trusted doctors and did as I was told without researching myself  I used  the potent steroid , and it made the VA worse.

All my white was VA , there is a lady on here who I chat too , and she was told to use the potent steroid without a definite diagnosis and I advised her not to use it until she got her second opinion , she did not have LS it was VA.

A vulva dermatologist is the person to see.

[Silly]

Hi Maryjane,

Thank you what a rubbish diagnose dId you get cream in the end for the atrophy? Has it improved since then?  Thing is I got no reassurance felt very vulnerable shaky and upset and no information and other than Internet and here I wouldn't of known anything.   I am reluctant to use the ointment also I have no trust really that's why I've started chatting after looking at so many threads on here,  the White isnt patchy I've never had small patches of white it's a I wouldn't say white white but not pink.  I now have a lot more information now thanks to here and feel less alone and so I hopefully can discuss all this at the clinic.   I just wish I didn't go so submissive at these places.

[Maryjane]

I use vagifem and need systemic HRT for my VA also.

Pallor looking can be VA also , I would try and see a vulva dermo if possible.

You shouldn't start the steroid treatment without a biopsy , as you won't be able to get a correct diagnosis, but obviously if it is LS then potent steroid treatment will be necessary and ideally you should use local oestrogen also.

[Dennylou48]

I use a daily wash called vagisil twice a day.   It Rebalances our bits so to speak. Can be bought in any supermarket or pharmacy. Hope you get it all sorted my lovely. Sounds very painful. Xx

[Silly]

Hi again,

Thank you both for your help with keeping clean,  Not something you can ask face to face so at least on here it's over the key board.

I'm on a bad downer, I'm up and down I hate it.  It tickled a bit down there last night only once and I didn't itch but looked and there are some blisters so now I think I have herpes, oh god it's never ending, I haven't had a sex life for donkeys years but have read it can be latent    The bit I think has pus in it has puffed up so I'm going in the morning to see lady GP.  I reckon I'm just going to be in floods of tears as I feel lost to bits in this.  I showed GP day after I saw something and here I am still.  I'm going to have to just say I need help now with this not up to six weeks.  I'll worry over Christmas when everything is closed and end up going crazy.   Anxiety is going very bad, I put the Christmas tree up but just felt shattered so left it. Sorry for moaning again.

[CLKD]

When we feel low - or if guilt plays a part in our history - we can have all the diseases under the sun  ! so stop beating yourself up!  You have symptoms which worry you, you can see what you think may be abnormalities and until an experienced medic. discusses your worries, it may drag on and can be tiring.  Does your Surgery have a Practice Nurse?

[Silly]

Hi,

The surgery always ask why you need the appointment and something like this would only be GP, I tried the clinician head but even she won't deal with women's things.  That's what so frustrating you've described how I feel I can see changes which I know weren't there before and I know what pus in a wound looks like and inflammation so you're right.  To be honest if this was on my leg or hand I would lance it and I know pus would come out but I don't touch it there it's too thin skin I don't prod it or anything so it seems to be spreading.   

[Maryjane]

The best place to go is the GUM clininc no appointment needed and they are far more knowledgeable of vulvas than your GP.